Divorce was not what she dreamt of when she was getting married to the man of her dreams. She was on cloud nine or twelve when she got married. They both were software programmers and they programmed their life to be together. She was full of life and was tomboyish always, this was the quality that he fell for. She was brave, daring and not typical girl. But she did what every girl would do after marriage to handle and manage her household.
Going through divorce was a cumbersome and highly emotionally draining process. But she did not sit and weep. She was always on her toes, literally on toes. She was doing all that stuff a monkey would do. You must be wondering what is that stuff – she was always running, trekking and climbing mountains like Kilimanjaro. I do not have a friend except her who must have been there.
She was never serious, don’t take me wrong, she knew what she wanted in life but she was never serious (sad) even if things were not going her way. She was brave enough to take everything in her stride. She was always moving from one adventurous task to another. If I ever called her or messaged her, the reply was “ I am going to the forest, jungle, bushes for trekking and hiking.” It became a daily routine she could not be tied at home, she wanted to be out , out of the house doing physical activities.
She was clear about what she wanted but he was not. So it was not her problem but it became a problem for her. Her marriage became a problem for her. What would you do when the man you are married to does not understand you and everything is reduced to INCOMPATIBILITY . What would you do when being married means being separated. But if separated, how are you “married”. What if you are married legally but actually you are not. What the confusion, this is so very complicated like a MAZE. What she might be going through and was it due to this excess of stress that she was engaging herself into physical activities? This question had the answer with her only.
Was she bothered, yes and no. She was bothered because it was changing the course of her life. She was tied up with someone on paper and that paper controlled her life. She had this invisible control on her life of a man who had no emotional interest in her. Does that make her pitiable, no not at all – reason being she knew she cannot be with someone with whom she is not happy.
Well I met her through a common friend and I was curious to know about her. She was called ‘Jhansi ki Rani’, a queen who could defeat her enemy with ease and valour. Her mom was worried about her, her divorce proceedings were in progress and she was busy in hiking tour in Jungle with her friends. It sometimes made me smile for her. She was software programmer but she should have been into some adventure sports. Whenever in a month or two I caught up with her, she was trekking or skating somewhere. Hey girl, are you sad for what is going in your life. “ No, what for” she would reply, “I am having the best years of my life. I am alone but still surrounded with people I want to be surrounded with, these are people who challenge my very existence to make it the best. I love the way it is happening. There is just a small pull which keeps me conscious that something should happen fast as it will tire me out as it takes lot of time commuting for these court case for divorce. I am not unhappy as someone is not happy with me, better to be away from such person. I am meant to fly and solely on my wings, no one else can help me in flying, I just need the wind beneath my wings and my parents and friends are enough to provide me that push.”
It is long time since I have known her now, almost six-seven years and out of the blue after six months I said “hi” to her, she wished me happy birthday and then said, ” you know what – my case is over, I am free now. No shackles and previous reins holding me down.” The battle was so long that she didn’t even understand that feeling of freedom as she believed she was never in shackles, that paper did not bind her but the society did. Today she is free superficially and spiritually and now I cannot wait to see her soar high and only the sky will be the limit.
Keep Inspiring Me. Go Girl, Aim High and Reach the Sky!!!
Cheers
© Rekha , June 2016
Cheers
© Rekha , June 2016
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Again inspiring story, inspiring blog…
Amazingly inspiring, why girls have to follow when they can lead. Perfect example. Keep sharing such stories Rekha!
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Amazing story. Keep writing….!
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