Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future – Lewis B. Smedes  ( American Author )

If you wish well for those who hurt you , you will know that you are ready to forgive. We all err at some point of life and each one of us deserve a second chance. No one is perfect and issues may arise amongst  us due to difference of perception. For me it is right, for you it may be wrong. You may have a opinion, so can others have. And it is quite possible that these views do not agree. When you realise that someone is hurt  and the reason is you – apologising is the best remedy. You may hold your ground, but you will not be able to hold the relationship. And if you are the one who is hurt, forgive, forgiving does not mean you are weak, it means you are strong enough to let it go. But true forgiveness is one where you are letting go hatred and wish well for the one who hurts. If you think you are doing a favour by forgiving other, you are wrong, actually you favour yourself by forgiving as you are freeing yourself of bitterness, anger and resentment.

Imagine a world where no one forgives another who has hurt them. It will be chaotic world and ‘an eye for an eye’ would prevail. When that happens everyone will be blind.

There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.”  Martin Luther King, Jr.

Keep apologising and keep forgiving. For in forgiving you are giving love and in apologising you may receive it.

Copyright Rekkha June 13, 2017